We’re gonna tell you straight up – first impressions DO matter, and they matter the most. Sure, we encourage everyone to get to know someone better, strike conversations, find out more, before coming to a conclusion of what kind of person someone else is; especially for first and blind dates!
With that being said, the harsh truth is first impressions really matter. Some people just choose to keep an open mind and then let nature take its own course before making a decision if the person across the table is someone they’d like to spend the rest of their days with. And then again, there are the others on the other end of the spectrum who would make a judgment there and then. This doesn’t mean they’re judgmental or “bad”, it just means they are a lot more selective than the rest of the people.
1. Everyone, somehow, makes preconceived judgments.
The ideal truth that everyone in the society wants to believe is that nobody should ever be judgmental. And if given the case that someone comes off as any slightly more judgmental, we condemn them. But nobody wants to face the truth that every single individual makes preconceived judgments when they first meet someone. It is just a matter of expressing their dismay or delight; closing their minds or opening them up; giving more opportunities or shutting doors up.
What are some topics that I can talk about with my date?
I know, first dates are already nerve-wrecking, let say coming up with topics during the date! The key to striking conversations and keeping them going is to maintain a good balance of being interesting, curious and yet comfortable for the opposite party.
Some ideas for topics are overall well-being, hobbies, future and lastly, just fun things! These topics would give off a vibe that you’re genuinely interested in them as individuals and you’d like to know more about them. But it is also an opportunity for you to gauge what kind of person he or she is, as well as if you have anything in common with each other.
If a guy often laments that he is stressed while findings job, is it a sign that he’s unable to take stress or be a responsible man? If he is in a relationship but seldom asks her out, and when he does, it’s often late at night and quite often for sex. He is not a decent or good guy, right?
Firstly, about his ability to handle stress – If he talks about being stressed, it could be his way of relieving it. However, if he takes his stress to a negative level, complaining about life and finding faults in everything just to find himself an easy way out to not deal with it, I’m afraid that is a sign that he may have a habit of running away from his problems, and finding excuses for himself to avoid doing what is necessary or responsible.
How do I prepare myself for a relationship when I have been single for so long? – Female reader
Being single for a period of time would mean you have adjusted to living alone and being within your comfort zone. Well, it can go two ways! Either you’ve been pretty laid back and comfortable with your routine everyday, or you are on the other end of the spectrum – continuously looking for exciting and new things to do.
We always talk about how Singaporeans don’t dress well – slippers, shorts and t-shirts in town! Oh my. 😱 But there’s always an excuse for it – IT’S THE WEATHER! ☀️ How can men even suit up on this crazy sunny island?
True enough, we all understand. As much as guys hate to dress up in suits here, ladies could relate with the melting of make-up! A walk across the street and that already means touching up your eyeliner or concealer! But let’s help these ladies another time.
For today, guys will be glad they chanced upon this article. 😉 With our Chief Personal Branding Analyst, Sammi Chiang’s help, we managed to discover some good deals of these awesome pieces for you at a steal! Yay to GSS!
Dr. Love puts an end to gloomy June with answers to your burning questions! We promised 2 questions answered every Friday, but since this is the first post our new Dr. Love is working on, we have a bonus question answered right at the end!
Submit your questions related to image, dating and relationship here or email us at email@example.com. Dr. Love promises you love and dating advice every Friday!
Here is a curated list of things, events and promotions for you single ladies in Singapore to look out for in the month of July!
Let’s admit it, ladies – we’ve either said it ourselves or heard our friends say that there’s really nothing to do in Singapore besides eating, shopping and pampering yourselves. And seriously, all of these require money.
It’s inevitable that activities on such a first-world island requires a fair bit of spending, but let’s make it easier for you this July! We’ve collated a list here for all you single ladies to look out for in the month of July, so you don’t have to worry about what to do when your BFFs are busy!
Read on for the calendar of exciting activities and promotions we have curated for you to do in Singapore this July!
What if he doesn’t like me? What if she doesn’t like my shoes? What if I overdress? What if… Just what if?
Don’t you worry now, for we have here – Ms Sammi Chiang, GaiGai’s very own Chief Personal Branding Analyst. We sat down to have a chat with her about her imaging experience at Fleek with GaiGai and also, to share the makeover session she had done with our male client QingHai!
Every lady dreams of looking like a flawless princess on a date, with killer looks that leave them gawking across the room. We’ve got the inside tips on where to go for the best last minute beauty pick me up before a date in Singapore!