We’re gonna tell you straight up – first impressions DO matter, and they matter the most. Sure, we encourage everyone to get to know someone better, strike conversations, find out more, before coming to a conclusion of what kind of person someone else is; especially for first and blind dates!
With that being said, the harsh truth is first impressions really matter. Some people just choose to keep an open mind and then let nature take its own course before making a decision if the person across the table is someone they’d like to spend the rest of their days with. And then again, there are the others on the other end of the spectrum who would make a judgment there and then. This doesn’t mean they’re judgmental or “bad”, it just means they are a lot more selective than the rest of the people.
1. Everyone, somehow, makes preconceived judgments.
The ideal truth that everyone in the society wants to believe is that nobody should ever be judgmental. And if given the case that someone comes off as any slightly more judgmental, we condemn them. But nobody wants to face the truth that every single individual makes preconceived judgments when they first meet someone. It is just a matter of expressing their dismay or delight; closing their minds or opening them up; giving more opportunities or shutting doors up.
What are some topics that I can talk about with my date?
I know, first dates are already nerve-wrecking, let say coming up with topics during the date! The key to striking conversations and keeping them going is to maintain a good balance of being interesting, curious and yet comfortable for the opposite party.
Some ideas for topics are overall well-being, hobbies, future and lastly, just fun things! These topics would give off a vibe that you’re genuinely interested in them as individuals and you’d like to know more about them. But it is also an opportunity for you to gauge what kind of person he or she is, as well as if you have anything in common with each other.
If a guy often laments that he is stressed while findings job, is it a sign that he’s unable to take stress or be a responsible man? If he is in a relationship but seldom asks her out, and when he does, it’s often late at night and quite often for sex. He is not a decent or good guy, right?
Firstly, about his ability to handle stress – If he talks about being stressed, it could be his way of relieving it. However, if he takes his stress to a negative level, complaining about life and finding faults in everything just to find himself an easy way out to not deal with it, I’m afraid that is a sign that he may have a habit of running away from his problems, and finding excuses for himself to avoid doing what is necessary or responsible.
How do I prepare myself for a relationship when I have been single for so long? – Female reader
Being single for a period of time would mean you have adjusted to living alone and being within your comfort zone. Well, it can go two ways! Either you’ve been pretty laid back and comfortable with your routine everyday, or you are on the other end of the spectrum – continuously looking for exciting and new things to do.
How do you know if you love someone? – Female reader
This is really an abstract question, I must say! Every individual feels and views love differently. This is why we have the 5 love language and different personality tests for everyone. Ultimately, to love someone is the moment of realisation that you actually want him or her in your life.
Love is generous, positive and healthy. Sure, all relationships come with its ups and downs. No relationship is perfect and flawless. Love should always make you feel happy, and gives you a warm tingling feeling in your heart when you think of that person. That is when you know you love someone.
To love someone is to accept flaws and move beyond. To accept his or her flaws and encourage him or her to be a better person, but still keeping all unique traits. That is when you love someone.
How do I know if he is not into me? – Female reader
We can split this question into 2 different parts. First being when he has already shown obvious signs, and second being when he tells you one thing and does another.
One of the most obvious signs when he’s really just not into you is when he does not give you the attention you want. He does not call you or text you back. He ignores the important things you tell him. He never asks you how your day went. He doesn’t really care when you’re not feeling well.
Another is when he tells you he likes you, but his actions show otherwise. He never makes time for you, and in this case, by not making time, I mean that he is able to go for weeks without seeing you even once. That’s when you know he’s not really that into you as he claims to be.
From today, we are launching a monthly series titled Metamorphosis which we will be sharing these love stories we have received over the years since GaiGai’s inception in 2015!
Dolly Chua, the Chief Matchmaker, has been leading the GaiGai cupid team for 2 years. Dolly’s interest sparked when she moved to the states for work. Dolly was able to quickly make new friends in an entirely new environment. Her time overseas has instilled in her a love for meeting new people. Dolly continues to expand her social network in Singapore as she meets and connects individuals from all walks of life. Dolly’s passion for bringing people together extends beyond the office; it has become more of a lifestyle for her.
Alright, I get it. First dates are already nerve-wrecking, let say making the first move! This is a real concern to ladies when it comes to making the first move. We hold our actions because we are always worried about coming off as desperate and not just interested.
So, what should we do? How do we draw a line between being interested and coming off as just desperate for love?
Should I ask for his number if by the end of the date, he has yet to ask me for my number? – Female reader
Before going into all the fancy clothes and deals, we have gotten first-hand news: Catch Vaniday for their GSS 2 days Flash Sale on the 7th and 8th July. Stay tuned to their social media to more GSS surprises!
So what can you do at Vaniday? It is a beauty services site where you get exclusive discounts if you reserve via their platform with these existing brick and mortar beauty shops!
To prepare you for the mega party, try these services:
Get your hair done at LUXE XM! A new colour, or even get your hair styled just before the party!
You can be wearing a really pretty dress, but the first thing one is going to notice about you in a masquerade party is your nails! Remember, you’ll be shaking hands AND holding onto wine glasses. So remember to get your nails done too!
Lastly, remember to do your make-up to perfection! If you are sick of putting on mascara (oh my, don’t remind me of the times I have to remove them after a long day..) or putting on falsies, check out Lash Regrowth here!
Remember those prom gowns and glam dresses you bought but have only worn them once? You don’t even remember which box you’ve kept them in! The problem with such beautiful sequin gowns is that we hardly ever get a chance to wear it. We pay a high price for it, but the chances of the material spoiling is actually higher than the chances of us wearing it!
Style Lease, an online platform for you to rent designer gowns and dresses solves this problem. Wait, you may look at the word designer and think expensive! However, there are beautiful dresses for rental for as low as only S$55 for a 4-day rental!
We have selected these Great Gatsby-esque pieces for you!
Gold Glitter Glam
This Sequin High Neck Ruched Side Dress is meant for you to flaunt those legs, ladies! Remember to pair this with high heels! And also, less accessories to neutralise the gold sequin! 😉
If you’re looking to show off your collar bone and a little of your legs, this Eileen Fishtail Sequin Gown by Bariano is the perfect fit! Not to mention, timeless Black and Gold just like what Sam Sparro sang about!
Black Beaded Beauty
If you’re into more conservative pieces, black is the way to go. You can never go wrong with black. Matching of accessories and shoes would be a breeze!
At first glance, this Sequined Gown by ABS looks conservative and classy. Just don’t be surprised when you take a look at its back cut-outs! This is a true example of combining conventional cover-ups with cut-out beauty. The straps at the back land just right – at the right places, so it saves you trouble from looking for a reliable pair of nubra! 😉
Shimmer Silver Styles
Its low back would definitely make you stand out in a crowd – especially at a masquerade event! Look at more details on this by Basix Black Label here!
Well well, remember Beyoncé during the 2015 Met Gala? It’s your chance to pull off a mini-Queen B this time during the masquerade party! Sure, it is nowhere as risque as Beyoncé’s piece, but this is a great combination of sophistication and safety! Don’t have to worry about your movements… But wait, it comes with a low back too! Find out more about this piece here!
Didn’t see anything that caught your eye? Click here to head to Style Lease and you can filter through your preferred choice of colours, price range, as well as designers! Before you go, quote GAIGAI15 to get a 15% off your gown reservations during check-out! Happy shopping!
3. Complete Your Cinderella Look!
Okay, if you haven’t heard of Zalora, I don’t know what to say! Seriously, the only issue we ever have (besides whether the seller is trust-worthy or not) when it comes to online shopping is whether the shoes will fit. With Zalora’s hassle-free return & exchange policy, and I repeat, HASSLE-FREE and FREE policy, it just solves this major problem for most of us!
All you gotta do is look through the web as you will, choose your favourite pairs and check out! Wait for them to be delivered to your door step, try them on, and if they don’t fit like it should, simply send them packin’ back into the very bags they came from and drop it off at a Singpost outlet!
The drop-off is literally just droppin’ it off and walkin’ away! You don’t have to fill in complicated forms, make payment according to weight or anything like that! The staff at Singpost would simply collect them and you may continue with your shopping! That is way too easy. On top of that, Zalora is having GSS Saleup to 70%off right now!
Here are some of our favourite picks!
Killer heels are named killer heels for a reason – you strut down the walkway and kill it! I assure you that eyeballs would be following you wherever you go! This black pair would go well with any dress!
This is such a personal favourite. Pair it with jeans, or even a cute summer dress! Get it at S$34.90 here!
This is such a personal favourite. Pair it with jeans, or even a cute summer dress! Get it at S$34.90 here!
For ladies who don’t do well with elevated heels, you may want to give this a shot. Muted grey colour is one of the trends right now, so are thin ankle straps! Pair this in a formal outfit, think blouse and pants, or even wear them casually with a white maxi dress!
We always talk about how Singaporeans don’t dress well – slippers, shorts and t-shirts in town! Oh my. 😱 But there’s always an excuse for it – IT’S THE WEATHER! ☀️ How can men even suit up on this crazy sunny island?
True enough, we all understand. As much as guys hate to dress up in suits here, ladies could relate with the melting of make-up! A walk across the street and that already means touching up your eyeliner or concealer! But let’s help these ladies another time.
For today, guys will be glad they chanced upon this article. 😉 With our Chief Personal Branding Analyst, Sammi Chiang’s help, we managed to discover some good deals of these awesome pieces for you at a steal! Yay to GSS!
Dr. Love puts an end to gloomy June with answers to your burning questions! We promised 2 questions answered every Friday, but since this is the first post our new Dr. Love is working on, we have a bonus question answered right at the end!
Submit your questions related to image, dating and relationship here or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Dr. Love promises you love and dating advice every Friday!